Just Let Them Be Kids 🎮
‘Happy wife, happy life!’………..Right?
How about, ‘Happy spouse, happy house’ 🙃 still super corny lol.
What we are trying to say is, when everyone enjoys their space, especially in the home, the more calming - less chaotic it becomes.
I want to prelude by saying, we do not have a perfect family. We’ve hit many bumps but with a little hard work, focus & intention - we make it work pretty seamlessly.
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We take on so many new roles when becoming parents. For example, I had to become a teacher. Now….I am the LAST person who should be teaching anyone math or history - or in my husbands case, how to snowboard 😂 But teaching is so much more than school subjects & sports - I leave that for the certified teachers & coaches.
I become a protected mama bear when it comes to strengthening their minds, helping them learn how to feel, giving them tools on how to control their thoughts & actions. These are the subjects they don’t teach in school - & in my opinion, the most crucial.
Some kids have been raised or told by society (social media 😤) on how to respond, act, think…..’don’t let your kids play too many video games - it’ll fry their brain cells!’
Again, I am no expert. But when my 3 & 4 yo boys play video games together, they have the greatest time. I hear them laughing, rooting each other on, high-fiving through levels - teamwork!! They get so much joy out of telling me about all the superhero’s & new cars they unlocked together. Telling each other, ‘good job, Trevor! Good job, Landen!’ Why on earth would I spoil those moments for them? Cuz ‘society’ tells us it’s bad for their minds?
Me pulling them away, telling them to go read a book, do a puzzle - activities they don’t want to do will only make them upset & defiant. As parents we then get frustrated cuz they’re not listening, messin around too much, bored eating all the snacks you just bought yesterday, not eating dinner - I mean the list goes on & on.
It’s the same for adults. Telling your husband he can’t play VR with his friends cuz he needs to be present with his family 24/7….it’s not fair. Let him enjoy his time just like you enjoy your time when your kids are playing together. You start to enjoy your alone time, your space, your life. Take advantage of those times - you might mess around & start a business doing exactly what you were made to do ❤️
Now, I am NOT saying your kids should stare at a tv screen all day cuz they look happy & you get alone time. My point is to focus your attention on how excited your kids get telling you about the level they just beat, your husband laughing with his friends, or the long hot shower you just took uninterrupted. Focus on those experiences throughout the day.
Enjoy your ride ❤️
(& let everyone else enjoy theirs too!)
Mom brag:
My 4yo told me to come check out the new Lego superhero they found. He goes, ‘Mom look, it’s the Statute of Liberty!’ 🗽 Something I did not teach him. Make sure you celebrate those moments!
‘You are so smart!! Yes it is! Very good, keep learning & working together!!’
